Category: Babies

I am here to tell you, baby fever is a real thing and boy do I have it. I have pictured myself having babies for as long as I can remember, and ever since my husband and I got married over a year and a half ago, I have had babies on the brain. But, only recently, we have decided that we are ready to actually start trying. I have been waiting for this moment for what feels like forever, but now that it is here, I am a little hesitant. I am sure that other women have the same hesitations that I do about the decision to have a baby:

I am worried that having children will completely change my relationship with my husband.

I am nervous that I will have absolutely no time for myself.

I am concerned that my body will never be the same.

I am afraid that we will not have enough money to give our children everything that they need.

I am scared to have my whole world revolve around a child.

I am very terrified that I will not be a good enough mom.

I am nervous that our two pups will not get enough attention and not get along with our children.

I am unsure if I am ready to give up the freedoms that we currently have.

I am apprehensive to make such a permanent, life-changing decision.

I am absolutely petrified that my baby will be unhealthy.

The thing is, I realized all of this the first month we decided to just ‘wing-it’ and said ‘if it happens it is meant to be’. Well the moment I realized that there was a chance I could actually be pregnant, I sorta freaked out. I knew that deep down if I was pregnant I would be super excited, but the fact that I had all of these fears creep up and really make me silently wish that I wasn’t pregnant, didn’t make me feel very confident.

So now, here we are in a position where we no longer want to just ‘wing-it’, we actually could plan for it and try hard to make it happen… and I am still so afraid to go all in and go for it. I keep making up excuses to push it off a little longer. The problem is, there are still periods where the baby fever hits me and I suddenly have my mind made up that I am ready to be pregnant, right now. I am in this rut where we are still ‘winging-it’ and I wish it would just happen so the decision would be made for me. But that isn’t how I pictured it happening and I want to get a grasp on the real question,When is the right time to have a baby?

In all honesty, for every doubt I have about having a baby right now, there are a million reasons as to why I think now is the time to go for it!

I have heard how awesome and attractive it is to see your husband bonding and taking care of your child. Having a child could take our relationship to an even better level.

I have seen moms make time for themselves; I know that I will just need to make an effort to do so.

I have always struggled with my body image and I know that a woman’s body goes through a lot of changes while creating a baby. But in actuality, the fact that a woman’s body can create life is such an amazing and beautiful thing. I believe that I will make time for myself to get back into shape and feel healthy again.

My husband and I have somehow found a way to get everything we want without having many worries about money. Whenever we have needed something, God has always provided. I have faith that, that will continue to be the case.

The idea of my freedom and lifestyle changing does frighten me, but I admit it excites me as well.

I know that I am fully capable of filling the “mom role.” I know that there will always be room for improvement but I have been known to evolve when growth is needed.

I know it will take a bit for our two pups to acclimate to a baby, but I have faith that they will. My husband and I will have to make a special point to take turns and evenly spread our attention between our baby and our pups.

Yes, having children is a permanent, life commitment, but if I am being honest with myself, I believe that being a mother is one of my main callings in life.

My fears really boil down to one thing that is almost completely out of my control:

I am absolutely petrified that my baby will be unhealthy.

This fear should not keep me from trying for a baby, but it certainly gives me a lot of pause.

I know that I will do everything in my power to ensure that I have a healthy baby but there are obviously so any factors that are out of my control. Whether my baby encounters complications before he/she arrives or after, I will have to face those situations when/if they occur.

So after all of this contemplating, I guess the real question isn’t, when is the right time to have a baby?The question should be, is there ever a perfect time to have a baby?

Like every life-altering decision, part of you will feel excited and part of you will feel terrified. But the fact that we agree that we want children and neither of us would be upset if we found out that I was pregnant right now, says something. So I guess that all that is left to say is, here’s to hoping that God blesses us with a baby sometime in the very near future!